Every new parent wants to be the best to their child. But you’ll have difficulty fulfilling this if you aren’t aware on the right and wrong ways on parenting. More so, when it comes to potty training!
Tips On How To Potty Train Your Baby – They Say It’ll Be Easy!
Oh, the beauty of holding a newborn is a scene most parents dream of. The small hands holding your finger, the feet kicking in the air, and don’t forget the cutest smile as they look up on you. It’s hard not to adore such a tiny yet captivating creature!
Once you’re a “new” parent, people will gush with excitement, they’ll tell you about parenthood and its’ essence in life. But then, no one would tell how parenting also comes with the infant’s wails during the night, the mess they make while eating, and the amounts of diapers to use!
Even if you read books, went to seminars, and listened to your family & friend’s experiences, no parent can ever be prepared once the baby’s born. Here I am, telling you that yes parenting won’t always be easy, it gets difficult as the child grows.
One things for sure, you’re here to find out how and when to potty-train your child. We will focus on:
- what right parenting really means,
- how to know when the baby is ready for potty-training, and
- positive & negative effects of a toilet-trained child.
How to be a “great” parent?
Being a first-time parent is almost the same as a fresh graduate on your first day of work. The similarities are:
- You have little to no knowledge on the challenges/tasks,
- must need to ask for assistance, and
- avoid any grave mistake.
Meanwhile, the differences are:
- You don’t get paid on taking care of your baby,
- you’re working on a human child instead of a computer, and
- there’s no “second chances” when it comes to parenting.
So, taking care of your child should be handled with a calm and collected attitude. Showing frustration/anger in front of the baby will impact their behavior and capacity to express ones’ emotions.
As a parent, you can never be perfect but what you can do is to be the best for your child. Through a certain set of criteria:
- don’t pressure your child to be someone he/she’s not.
- Parents unconsciously think, “some babies are this, I wish mine is…” or some would base their attitude towards the child on how they/others grew up. Remember, every child is different – own needs and wants.
- be a good role model & love unconditionally
- A child is the second version of the parents. The behavior and attitude they show signifies how they’re being treated or taken care of the parents.
- look at a different light
- Always make sure to see each situation in a different perspective. “What will my baby feel when I show this emotion?”.
- communicate instead of ordering your child
- there’s a difference between “Learning this is vital to grow into a big boy! You’ll be…” and “do this, you need to sit down when you want to pee. If not there’s punishment”.
Finally, the best kind of parenting is being aware on what is best for the child. One of it is the kind of diapers you buy!
Why using disposable diapers is NOT the best option
Per day, a baby uses an average of 6 to 7 diapers. In one year, an infant consumes an average of 2,500 diapers. In 2 years, it’s around 4,000 and more.
These disposable diapers are made out of non-biodegradable components that affects the environment, and the people, in the long run. But the reason why we don’t want you to use diapers is more than that, these are:
- Anti Eco-friendly
Diapers are made out of plastic, which takes approximately 450 to 1000 years to decompose. It’s more than that, it sinks toxic waste through the earth surface until it affects the water supply.
2. Price tag
Raising a baby comes with huge amounts of expenditures and diapers is one of them. Since costs may vary, an average of 400 to 500 dollars a year are spent on disposable diapers.
3. Allergic reaction
While the baby removes solid waste in the body, moisture builds up in the diaper due to lack of air circulation. In turn, it’s more prone to bacteria, infection, and rashes.
4. Difficulty in potty-training
If you prolong the use of diapers, your baby will find it hard to adjust to potty-training. That is why, if you notice signs of independency of the child, you should immediately start introducing the toilet. Keep in mind, early potty-training isn’t good as well.
With that said, diapers may be convenient for parents but you also need to be price, health, and environment conscious. What’s the best alternative while your child can’t go to the toilet? Look for biodegradable or eco-friendly diapers like cloth.
Cloth diapers can save you the stress of spending too much money, eliminating infections/rashes, and saving mother earth. Yes, this may mean more chores but if you think about the advantages, you’ll surely throw out the disposable ones and purchase this!
How to know when your baby is ready to be potty-trained?
Sometimes, all you have to do is watch out for the signs. These signs will determine if your child is ready for the big kid toilet! Transitioning from diaper to toilet should take the right precision and attitude for both parent and child.
In terms of behavior, the child noticeably:
- shows in-dependency in terms of eating, changing, etc.
- wants to learn new things.
- hates wearing soiled diapers (makes/tells you to change it, adjusts/tries to take it off, etc.)
- desires to be praised for accomplishments.
- looks forward to potty-training and cooperates accordingly (doesn’t cry/have tantrums).
Meanwhile, physical signs are:
- the need to urinate regularly and is most often predictable.
- ability to use legs (e.g. walk & run) with little difficulty.
- can evidently hold urine (means bladder muscles are fully developed).
- does not discharge waste for 2 hours or during nap time.
- can pull up or down ones’ pants.
Lastly, cognitive readiness checklist are:
- awareness of the child on when and where to urinate or poop.
- knows the difference between pee and poo.
- is conscious/can put back toys & other objects.
- understands directions (parents asking to fix his/her shirt, etc.).
- wet diapers lessened.
If your baby shows majority of these signs, it’s time for him/her to be toilet-trained! Don’t rush the process or else, it’ll become a burden for you and your child in the future.
Potty-Training: how to implement and execute?
Girls are more likely to learn toilet training earlier than boys. Why? Studies have shown that girls attention span is longer which means they don’t get distracted as fast as boys.
Exposing your child to an environment wherein people (such as siblings) use the toilet, aids the toddler to learn faster. But how do you exactly implement and execute this? Does it mean you need to get rid of the diapers immediately?
As discussed, there are signs you need to look out for if your child is ready for the big kid toilet. In terms of age, a toddler can upgrade to the potty between 1 year & 6 months to 3 years old.
Make it a fun experience
Potty-training shouldn’t always be strict and informative. Since you’re working on a child, it needs to be entertaining. One way to do this is to use toys to demonstrate the right ways to potty-train!
Give rewards or praise
A child is dependent to what their parents show or tell them. If you coo and clap your hands after he/she pees in a toilet, it will surely reinforce a positive behavior. Giving rewards on the few tries will motivate the child to use the toilet.
Avoid negative reaction
Yes, punishment may help the child learn how to potty-train but this can have a negative effect on his/her upbringing. Forcing your toddler to do something will likely make them develop a destructive/stubborn behavior once the child grows up.
Teach child independency
Stop treating your child in a way that makes them be dependent on you. For example, slowly teach them to feed themselves on their own with the right tools, encourage them to pull up their pants, and many more.
When it comes to potty-training, you can buy a smaller toilet for your child instead of making him/her start with the big toilet. A small toilet made out for your toddler will give more liberty and the feeling of independency.
How long will it take until your child learns how to potty-train correctly? It may take a few weeks. There may be times when the child wakes up with a wet bed or soiled pants, don’t scold but guide.
As any first-time parents, it’s normal to feel paranoia when it comes to developing and aiding your child to grow as an emotionally stable individual. Remember, what they showcase in the future will reflect on how you taught them from the beginning they were born to adulthood.